Relapse. Few words strike more visceral anxiety, dread and anguish into the hearts of sexually betrayed partners. There’s no avoiding the intensity surrounding this infamously hot-button topic; it’s seared into our autonomic nervous systems, ignited and inflamed by historical ruptures within our most intimate human attachments.
But what if recovery could offer betrayed partners a practical, purposeful, and proactive approach to this subject, empowering us to courageously, safely, and comprehensively explore our biggest emotions surrounding this ”worst-case scenario"?
And what if therapists, coaches, and counselors were better equipped to respond when couples present their most highly charged questions and quandaries about relapse?
In this interview, Gaelyn will introduce some key concepts from her signature “relapse preparedness” paradigm, offering a few priceless gems for addicts, partners and practitioners alike. She’ll also highlight the ways that ambiguous loss, anticipatory grief, and complicated mourning manifest within relapse preparedness work—inviting greater self-compassion, emotional maturation and (ultimately) post-traumatic growth.
As with all of Gaelyn’s conversations about Betrayal-Related Grief™, she promises she won’t leave us hanging in “the messy middle” of this sticky wicket; instead, she’ll offer a few of her favorite mechanisms for Mourning to Move Forward™—an essential paradigm shift that determines whether we “go” through grief (what happens by default) or “grow” through grief (what happens by design).